Ukwakhiwa Konyango Lwengqondo

Umsebenzi kaShaya Ishida usebenza ngesixhobo sengqondo esibonakala ngathi sikho. Ubuchule bakhe bemvakalelo busebenza kancinci njengophawu olungasebenziyo kwaye njengesixhobo esilungiswe kakuhle, ukuchola intetho encinci, iphiko lomlomo, kunye nenkxwaleko phakathi kwabantu. Oku kuvumela ukuba alawule iqela elinamandla elichuliweyo elisoloko lingabonakali de libangele ukuxabana. Oku kusebenza kwengqiqo kubangela ukuba ingxubevange enzulu kunokulula; kumela ukuchanabeka kolwazi olubangela ukuba lungalungisekiyo, kodwa lungalungiseki njengendlela yokuphoxeka. Xa icebo liwile, aliqhubeki lisenza ukuba lingasebenzi umzimba kodwa likwazi ukwenza oko kungenayo, kodwa likhuphe oko kubangela iinjongo ezingundoqo. Olu qeqesho lwengqondo lubonisa oko kubangela ukuba abaphengululi bafumane ubuchule obungalawulekiyo, kodwa lungakhangeli, luthi kwenze ulwenze ubuchule obunamandla obunamandla obukhoyo phakathi kobuntu bakhe. Olu khetho luthi luthi luthi lutsha luthi tyekelele abanye abantu abasebenzisa ubuchule obunamandla ngenxa yendlela yobuchule obucacileyo ngenxa yobuchule.

Ukwakheka, kwimeko kaShaya, akuthethi kuthi akukho ntlungu kodwa kubuchule bokuyilungisa. Isantya sakhe sokuyibala emva kokulahlekelwa okanye ukungcatshwa sicebisa ukunyuka ngaphakathi okusuka kuzo zombini iimvakalelo zokwemvelo nokuphumelela kokuhlangabezana nazo. Ufumana kwigama lesazi ngengqondo ngokwayo [ubuchule bokuzibamba] ulweyiseko lomntu olukwindlela yakhe yokuphembelela iziphumo. Le nkolelo ayibonakali njengendlela yokuzikhukhumala kodwa njengesiqinisekiso sokunyamezela nokuphinda kwakhe kwakhona. Ngokubalulekileyo, amandla akhe anokuxhomekeka: ukukwazi kwakhe ukukwazi ukumelana nokuzibamba kwakhe, nto leyo ebangela ukuba nolwakheko. Le nto ibangela ukuba asebenze kakuhle.

Undoqo Wokuziva Unetyala: Umthombo Nezimvo Ezicacileyo

Ukuziva ungenatyala eShaya Ishida asinto nje elula ukuzisola ngokuphosa ityala elinye; sisimo esisisigxina, esingapheliyo esifunyaniswe kuye. Iingcambu zaso zisasazeke kwimimandla emithathu ephambili: izigqibo ezingenakuguqulwa, ukungaphumeleli okubonakalayo ukukhusela abanye, nobunzima obugqithisileyo bokungalindelanga. Izigqibo zexesha elidlulileyo zimkhathaza ngokucaphukisa okuthe ngqo okubangela ukuba netyala okungaqondakaliyo kukhawuleze kuphozise ityala. Oku akulityekwanga oko abakwikliniki-kliniki bacinga ukuba kucacile okulula. UShaya ukuqonda umongo osengqiqweni wokhetho lwakhe, kunye nobunzima obukhoyo ngexesha loku kunikeze umbuzo othe wakwenza ngokuzididanisa. Kodwa oku kubangela ukuba azicineze ingcingo yendlela engoko. Oku kubangela ukuba abantu bacinge ngendlela engathi i-fle. [FLD:]

Umthombo wesibini ```Awuqondisi tyala labanye,') usenza sibe mfutshane imigca phakathi kokhathalelo nokungaguquguquki. Xa usenza umva wokubandezeleka kwabo bamngqongileyo, uziva enecala kungekuphela nje ngenxa yengozi ebangele kodwa kwaye nengozi engazange ithintele. Oku kwenza imeko ye-metaving stres stress isoloko ihlola iimpawu zengxaki, kwaye yonke i-enzame ikhangeleka kwenye into njengengxaki yobuqu. Oku kuhamba ngendlela ehamba ngayo [[FLT: 0] kwaye kubangela ukuba kungabikho monakalo [[FLT], , kubangela ukuba azive ebuthathaka, uhlobo lomntu oziva ebuhlungu, oluzidityayo lwenkquququ, oluzidiza inkcinelo nolunga. Imeko yesithathu, isebenza ngoncedo lwe-octivesss, i-opperthreaid, i-mong, xa itheth efuna into ekhoyo yoondondondondolo, ekhoyo, engondondondondolo, engapheliyo, engongo

Umahluko Wobubele: Amandla Aguqukayo

U-Empathy / `Sya'' odumileyo, --okhetary indleko efihliweyo eguqula amandla akhe abe siteketiso. Uvelwano lokwenyaniso lufuna umda othambekileyo phakathi kwakhe ngesinye, ukuvumela imeko yemvakalelo yomnye iveve ngaphakathi. Kuba uShaya, le pornosuty iba ngumgibe: akanakunikela ubungqina bokuqaqaqanjelwa ngaphandle kokuzichaphazeleka, kwaye xa egqibile, akanakukwazi ukuzinika isabelo somthwalo ngaphandle kokuzinika ithuba elingakumbi lomthwalo. Oku kungulo [[FLT: 0]] ipathy-gult nexus, umjikelezo obangela ukuba abanye bazive benonetyala kakhulu, ekucingeni ukuba baphinde bazive benetyala. Phambi kokuba baqalise, baqalise ukuzibonelela kunye nokuzibangela ukuba bangabi nako."

Oku kubangela ubunzima bolwalamano lwakhe. Abalinganiswayo ababekhe baluxabisa ulwazelelelo lwakhe banokuzifumana benobuchule bokulawula imeko yakhe yemvakalelo, bephepha ukutyhilwa okunokumenza abe netyala elijijekileyo. Uqhagamshelwano alufuni ludinwa yimiqobo ekhuselayo abanye abamisayo ukuze baphephe umthwalo wakhe. Ulwazelelelo, ngokungenangqiqo, luqala ukuphelisa ubunyani bentsebenziswano yakhe; abantu baqala ukuzibuza enoba inkxaso yakhe inyani okanye inyanzelekile ngenxa yemfuno efuna ukunqanda ukuziva enetyala lakhe. Ulwahluzo lwengqondo luye luthika phakathi kobu `[FLTLT: 0] ulwaluvo olunetyala (uluvane ,) luqala ukuphelisa ulwazelelelo oluphakathi kolwakhe lwemvakalelo. Luqala ukuva ngaphaya kolwaluvo lwakhe olubiko lufuna ukuva.[FLT] [FLT]] [ilson]]

Ityala Letyala Kwimiqobo Engokweemvakalelo

Impembelelo yemithambo-luvo nengqondo yomvandedwa ongapheliyo wetyala uphinda u Shaya ajonge umva wetyala ngendlela ephazamisa amandla akhe ngqo. Ubulumko obungokweemvakalelo, obuxhomekeke kwingqiqo echanileyo nokuqiqa okubhetyebhetyezelayo ngeemvakalelo, bugqwetheka xa imvakalelo yetyala isenza ipeyinte. Intetho engondileleyo ebusweni bomntu asebenza naye ingachazwa njengedimazeko; ukuphendula okukhawulezileyo kwisigidimi kusenokufundwa njengokugxeka okungathethiyo. [[FLT: 0] i-inter phost [ ikhupha amandla akhe ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ikhokelela ekulungiseni imbonakalo yentlalo-ntle yomntu, ukufuna ukuqiniseka, okanye ukungavumelani impikiswano efunekayo. Ukuzinziwa kwakhe, kanye okubonakala njengokuphazamisa imbonakalo yakhe yokusebenza kunye nezinto zokuxhasa izinto, ishiya imfuno yengxaki yengxaki yengxaki yengqondo. Ingxaki esetyenziswayo ekusebenziseni ekusebenziseni iinjongo zokulungisa izinto ezisetyenziswayo endaweni esetyenziswayo."

Unxunguphalo, iqabane elisoloko linetyala elinganyangekiyo, limxinwa. Uyayeka ukufumanisa amathuba nokuqhelana nezisongelo ```````'''''''''. Uzibeka esichengeni iliso kuluntu oluninzi lokungamkeleki okanye ukuchaswa. Oku kutshintsha ukusuka kwindlela yokubonisa imbonakalo ukuya kumda wokuzikhusela okumenza aphumelele. Ukukwazi kwakhe ukumelana neziphumo ezithe tye. Naye, kuba buthathaka, kodwa ukuthoba okuncinci kufuna umgudu ongakumbi, kwaye ukuqokelelwa kwamagqabi olwaphulo-mthetho kuya kuvela njengesiphumo esichuliweyo. Ngenxa yokuba umvakal' ukungazilungisi. Unokumxelela ukuba aphumelele, angazenzangachaphazamisi, kodwa ukumisela imilinganiselo engekho ngqiqweni naka, kwaye angakwazi ukumelana nokunconywa. Izixhobo eziphenjelwe ngaphakathi zixhomekeke kwisiseko.

Uphando ngemithambo-luvo olunxulumene nokuzilungisa nokuzilungisa. Kubantu abaneendlela zokuzibekelela ezingapheliyo, ezi ndawo zingaba nento egqithisileyo, ukwenza utyikityo lwengqondo olungapheliyo lwe-critique. Kulo mqulu, ithetha ukuba ubuchopho bakhe busoloko buhlola iimpazamo zokuziphatha, kwanakwimeko yobundilele. Imeko yokuzicina ityala okuqhubekayo, ngexa kuluncedo, xa kungenakukwazi ukuphazamisa. Ukulungisa ukusebenza kufuna ukususwa kwetyala.

Intsingiselo Yezigqibo Zexesha Elidluleyo Nentlungu Engaconjululwanga

Ezinye iimeko zokuzibek'ityala zikaShaya azibangelwa kukuzikhusela kodwa ziyindlela yendalo yokusabela kwiimeko ezinzima apho kungekho khetho lucocekileyo. Usenokuba wenze ukhetho olubangele umonakalo omkhulu, nokuba olo khetho luyimfuneko okanye lunyanzelekile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ityala lidibene nomongo [, ingcamango esetyenziswa ekuqaleni ekulweni nawaphi na amava kodwa ajongene nomntu oye wangqubana nomosheka kakhulu nomonzakalo wokuziphatha. Umvandedwa ohambisana nomonakalo wokwephulwa komthetho, ngokufuthi kukwimo womo wolwaphulo mthetho apho ungenakuphepheka. Ngaphandle kwemeko yesenzo sokuzimela, esi siphoso siphumela ekubeni nehlazo, ukuguquka kwento engalunganga kusuke “ndiyenze into embi” kuba“ indim. Umgca ongalunganga.

Intlungu isoloko ihambisana nolu hlobo lomvandedwa, ingakumbi xa izigqibo zexesha elidlulileyo zikhokelela ekulahlekelweni. UShaya usenokuba noxanduva lokunganyaniseki kolu khethelo , ekholelwa ukuba ufanele ukuba wazi oko awazi ngoku. Oku kugqwetha okungachananga kulula kuyazi ukuba uselula wakhe ubonakalisa imfesane ngokukhululekileyo kwabanye. Intlungu ayibangelwanga kuphela koko kulahlekileyo kodwa ngumntu akholelwayo ukuba wayenyulwe ngokwahlukileyo. Usizi lubangela ukuba abe nomvandedwa, kwaye umdibaniso ungakhokelela kuhlobo lobunjani lwemvakalelo ebuhlungu: amaxesha akhoyo ahlaselwa yindlela yokukhumbula izinto ezibuhlungu, kwaye uziva uvuya. Ukuphula lo mzekelo akufuni ukuqwalasela okudlulileyo, kodwa umele aphinde achaze ngokulingana nomombo opheleleyo.

Ukuhlangabezana nobuchule: Ukusuka kukhetho lokuzikhetha ukuya kutsho kukwamkelwa ngokugqibeleleyo

Ukuhlangabezana neSaya kuqalisa nge ekwakheni unyulo oluzilungiseleyo [[FLT:]] oluhambayo ngaphaya kokuzifunxa. Ukudityaniswa kuyabuza, “Nye endiyenze kakubi?” Ngokuphindaphinda, ngaphandle kwesigqibo. Unyulo lwe-I-yeya, olukhokelwa yimibuzo efana nothi “Ndingafunda ntoni?" okanye “Ndingathi kumhlobo okule ndawo?, ukutshintsha isakhelo sokusebenza kwisohlwayo ukuya ekukhuleni. Izixhobo ezifana nokunika iziqinisekiso, ukuphinda uvule imithambo i-greacarapy-gercer-ractiver [[FLTLT:3], kwaye ubhala ileta (okanye aziva ukuba uxanduva ucazazelo lwangaphandle lungaqwalal'ukuqwalanisa nokunga ulwaphulo-'umva-'umva obenzeka .

Ukufuna inkxaso asilophawu lobuthathaka kodwa kukusetyenziswa ngokomthetho kobuncwane bentlalo. Inkxaso kaShaya kufuneka iquke abantu abanokuzivuma iimvakalelo zakhe kunye nokuvavanya iimfashoni zakhe. Amaqela oonontanga, enoba kusesikweni okanye ngokungacwangciswanga, anikela isicombululo esinamandla kukwahlukana nokuziva enecala. Ukuva abanye bethetha ngokuchaneyo iingxaki ezifanayo `ngakumbi kubantu abamhloniphileyo `````nakekeka'''' uphazamisa inkolelo yokuba yena yedwa ubuthathaka ngokokuziphatha. Umsebenzi womntu ozithembileyo akamfihli kodwa akamele ahambe ecaleni kwakhe, enikela ubungqina kwiintlungu zakhe ngaphandle kokumntywilisa. Lo mcimbi wokwenza oku, owaziwayo kwingqiqo njenge-[[FLT:] [FLT] [FLT]] [121]], unceda ukubuyiselwa kwengqiqo yakhe yemithambo yemithambo yengqondo nokuzinzo.

Ubuchule bokucinga bumthatha ngaphaya. Oku kuthetha ukufunda ukuqaphela ukubonakala kwetyala, njengoko kusenziwa kwiinkqubo ezifana ne uxinzelelo lomoya olusekelwe kuxinzelelo lwengqondo oluthambileyo, uqeqesho lobuchule bokuqwalasela iingcamango neemvakalelo ngaphandle kokwaziwa ngokukhawuleza. Kuba oku kuthetha ukuba uShaya, oku kuthetha ukufunda ukuqaphela ukubonakala kwento ebekekileyo kwetyala, iqhina elisesiswini sakhe, iqhina eliqinileyo, ingcinga enzima, ingcinga enzima, kunye nokuyichaza njengento ebangela ukuba netyala.

Ukubuyisela Ityala Njengokhokelo Lokuziphatha, AsiyoNkosi

Ulwahluleko, xa lulinganiswa kunye nexesha elilinganiselweyo, lusebenza umsebenzi obalulekileyo woguquko kunye nobudlelwane. Lubonisa ukuba ixabiso liye laphulwa lize lishukumisele kwihambo eguquguqukayo. Ucelomngeni lukaShaya asikokuphelisa ityala kodwa ukwahlula ubukhulu bayo kunye nomsebenzi. Oku kubandakanya ukutshintsha kwetyala [[FLT: 0]] ukujonga intelekelelo, ukuzijonga ngokwesondo, ukuyekelela [[[FLT: 1]] kwindlela yexesha elizayo. Iinjongo zokhetho zexesha elizayo zikwahlula, ukubeka uphawu olunexabiso elicacileyo. . Ukuba uvalo lubonisa ukuba unikezele kwixabiso elingundoqo [umgangatho ongundoqo], ukunyaniseka okufana nophawu oluchaphazanyazayo, okanye ukhokelo olufana nophawu oluqhelekileyo. Ubeko lophawu olubonisa ukuba unyaniseluye lwezo oluchaphazelo oluchaneyo, ukulinganisa amanani afana noluthi lwamanani athe abonisa kakuhle, abonisa ukuba abonisa ukuba uvavanyo olubi.

Ukulungisa le mithetho ithetha ukuba uShaya uyakwazi ukuva ulwamvila lwempazamo ngaphandle kokugqiba ukuba ichaza yena. Ufunda ukuthi, “Ndiyazisola ngeso senzo, kwaye ndiza kulungisa intelekelelo ukuba iyenzeka, kodwa ndingaphezulu kunomzuzu wam ombi.” Oku kuvumelana nengcamango ye [[FLT: 0] ulwamkelo lwempumlo [[FLT:]] oluzicaphulela ngokwalo [[FLT: 1]] njengolucacisiweyo nguGqr. uKristin Neff, othetha ngobuqu, imvakalelo yoluntu oluqhelekileyo, nokuqonda okugqithisileyo. Ngokuzinika ulwazelelelo olufanayo, uShaya ulwa ngokwaphuluthisa ulwano oluluvo lwe-ilt. Oku kuhlala kungenazintlubala-luko ngokokuziphatha. Oku kuvumela ukuba afumane ubuchule, ngoku, kwaye kubonakalisa ubuqhezuke, ngoku, i-bukhaliphe, ngoku, ngoku, ngoku, ngoku, i-eng.

Iindlela Zokwanda Kwasemva

Uvavanyo lokulwa nomvandedwa ongapheliyo lunamathuba okufumana oko kubizwa ngabasebenzi bengqondo ukukhula kwe-traumatic-post `ukutshintsha okucacileyo kwengqondo ngenxa yobunzima. KuShaya, oku kukhula akubonakaliswa njengokungabikho kwetyala kodwa njengolwalamano oluguqukileyo nalo. Angavela noxabiso olunzulu ngobomi, imvakalelo ecacileyo yokungafezeki kwakhe, kunye nobuchule obuphezulu bobuhlobo ngenxa yokungasamfihleki kwakhe. Uvelwano lwakhe, kanye njengomthombo wentlungu, uba ngumthombo wonxibelelwano olunzulu kuba akhange aphinde adibane nomntu ongakwazi ukumelana nokungakwazi kwakhe ukudada. Angahlala nomntu obandezelekayo, kunokuba abonise ukuba ade azame ukusindisa.

Uphando oluphathelele ukukhula kwemeko embi yokuziphatha lubonisa ukuba ludla ngokuquka ukuphinda uvuselele intsingiselo. UShaya angafumana injongo ekuqeqesheni abanye abalwa nomvandedwa ofanayo, aguqulele iintlungu zakhe zabucala ekubeni zilumke ngokwendawo. Ibali lakhe, elikhe laba neentloni, liba yingxelo yokusinda nokudibanisa, hayi ibali lokuwa nokuhlala phantsi, kodwa ukuwa, kodwa ukuhlala ixesha elithile, kwaye ngoku kunyuke ngoluvo olutsha. Undoqo lwakhe kukuba akalulahleli umvaka kodwa uluchazi, likhupha izifundo zalo ngoxa lilahla amasalela alo anobungozi. Oku kuveliswa kunokwenzeka ngamandla afanayo okuziva umva ityala, ngoku kubuyiselwe ekusebenzeni kwalo ngokupheleleyo. Ubulumko bakhe bengqondo bumenza alukwazi ukulwenza olu hambo, luzinziswe, luye luzinziswe ukuvumelana nokuzinza kwakhe, luzinzisa olo lulungela ukumelana nokuphumelela.

Iindawo eziluncedo zokuthatha Isicelo sehlabathi lokwenene

Ngoxa uShaya Ishida esenokuba yinto eyenzekayo, iimpembelelo zengqondo azibonisayo zingabantu abanzulu. Abafundi abazijongayo kumava akhe banokufumana uluvo oluninzi olusebenzayo. Okokuqala, ngokwahlula phakathi koluvo olululo olubonisa ukuba kufuneka utshintsho kwaye umvandedwa ongapheliyo obonisa imfuneko yokuzifaka. Uqeqesho olufutshane: xa kuvela ityala, bhala phantsi ukuziphatha okucacileyo okubangela ukuba ityala, ixabiso elilichaphazelekayo, kwaye elinye eliqinileyo ungalithatha ukuvumelana nalo elo xabiso. Ukuba akukho nyathelo, qwalasela ukuba umvandedwa kusenokungasuswa. Okwesibini, hlakulela inkqubo yokuxhasa okunika imbono elungileyo nenyanisekileyo. Ukuzilungisa, ukuziva umva ityala; ukunxibelelana okuqhelekileyo. Okuthu, ukulinganisa ngemikhwaphelo yemini emihlanu, kunye nemizuzu emihlanu yemini emihlanu. [5]

Okwesine, ukuba umvandedwa udibene neziganeko ezithile zexesha elidluleyo, qwalasela inkqubo yokuxolela ecwangcisiweyo qha, hayi ukuxolela abanye, kodwa ukuzixolela ngokwakho. Umzekelo ophuhliswe [`````````'''''.''. Kristin Neff''. kodwa uquka amanyathelo afana nokuvuma ingozi, ukwamkela uxanduva ngaphandle kokuzithethelela ngokwawo, kwaye ukwenza ubophelelo kumaxabiso okuphila okuzihambela phambili. Ekugqibeleni, hlela kwakhona inqaku: awungomntu onetyala, kodwa umntu oye wenza ityala lolwazi olungafezekanga, kwaye oqhubeka efunda. Olu tshintsho aluluthethelelanga zenzo zexesha elidluleyo kodwa lubeka kwinxalenye enkulu yobomi obuhlala buvulekileyo.

Isiphelo

Umhlaba wengqondo kaShaya Ishida — ogcwele ubukrelekrele, ubuchule, ulwazelelelo, kunye nokuzinza, kunika uhlolisiso olucacileyo kwindlela amandla aqaqambileyo anokuwafaka ngayo amathunzi amnyama. Umthwalo wetyala, ukusuka kwizigqibo ezidlulileyo, ukungazinzi, kunye nolindelo lwangaphakathi, kusenokususa amandla akhe okumenza abe ngokhethekileyo. Kodwa phakathi kwalo mzabalazo ukho imaphu yokutshintsha indlela. Ngokusuka kumandla ogqithisileyo ukuze ubonise ukuzibeka esichengeni, ukuxhasa ukungazikhuseli, nokuzihluza, nokuzikhulula ukuya kukuzikhulula, angakhange azenzekeli, angawabuyisela amandla akhe okusebenza ngaphakathi ngaphandle kokulahla isimilo sakhe. Injongo ayiko ukuziva ekhululekile ekuzibekeni ityala kodwa ingeyo, kodwa ilungele ukubonakalisa ngaphandle kokwazilawula, ukukwazi ukumelana nokuzilawula, ukumelana nokuzilawula, uyakwazi ukukhula, uyakwazi ukukhula ngokupheleleyo, ngokona, ngokona, ngaphambi koko, uyakwazi ukuzivakade, umva onako, umva onako, umva oyena umva, uGngengokubane, uGene,