I-colonomy yasendulo yeSinani Esibulalayo Samanqamu adlulela ngalé kwemibhoshongo yezenkolo yenkathi ephakathi. Namuhla, lemiqondo eyisidala, ubugovu, ulaka, umona, inkanuko, ukuminza, nebhethri (inikeza uhlelo lokuhlola lokuqonda ukuphuka kwangaphakathi okululaza amaqembu, izinhlangano, izinhlangano, nezindawo. Emkhakheni wobuholi, amandla abo awohlokayo angaguqula impucuko ehlangene ibe inkundla yempi yokuncintisana nokuvungula intukuthelo. Nokho, inkolelo efanayo nalena lezono nayo ikhomba ikha ikha ikha ikhambi lobuholi: uhlobo lobuholi olugunyazwayo ekunakekeleni, ukuthobeka, kanye nezinjongo ezihlangane. Ngokuhlola ukuthi ukuhluleka kwazo kuthatha kanjani izimpande namaqembu amaqembu aphikisanayo, futhi ngokuhlakulela ingxabano emelene nomphakathini.

Umlando Omufushane Wezono Eziyisikhombisa Ezibulalayo

Uhlu esilwaziyo manje njengeSipho Esibulalayo sabekwa umthetho nguPapa Gregory I ekhulwini lesi-6 leminyaka futhi kamuva wacwengisiswa nguThomas Aquinas, nakuba izimpande zaso zibuyela emuva kobaba abasogwadule nezincwadi zika-Evagrius Ponticus. Ekuqaleni zathathwa njengemiqondo eyisishiyagalombili emibi, i-schema yayingahloselwe ukuchaza izenzo ezimbi ezizodwa kodwa kunalokho izihloko zazo zonke izono − ezadalwayo, uthando, uma zishiywe zinganqanyulelwa, ziholela ekulimaleni. Ingqondo yanamuhla iye yahlanganisa lezi zigaba zasendulo zemicabango nezindlela zokuziphatha ezingcolisa inhlalakahle nezibophophopho phakathi kwekhulu leminyaka. [[FLT:] [FLT] [FLD] [FLD] izingxoxo ezibanzi] iSibi esibulalayo, lapho ishiyeka isilinganiso sokuziphatha esiphakathi kwezimiso ezihlanganisa izikhulu ezihlanganisayo ezihlanganisa izikhulu ezihlanganisa izikhulu zezo zonke:

Izono Njengezici Ezihamba Phambili

Ihola kokubili amandla nobuthakathaka. Esimweni segunya, ukuthambekela okuncane kungabangela amandla abhubhisayo. Ngezansi, isono ngasinye sihlolwa ngelens yokubonakala kwaso kwenhlangano − ebonisa indlela okubi komuntu siqu okuba yinkinga elawulayo.

Ukuqhosha: Ukuqhosha Okuyahlazisa

Ukuqhosha emkhakheni wobuholi akuvamile ukuzibonakalisa ngokuziqhayisa okukhulu. Kubonakala ngokunyenya kakhulu: njengokungavumi amaphutha, ukulahla inqubo esheshayo yokungavumelani nemibono, nokuqiniseka ukuthi umbono wakho awunaso iso isohlonipho. Uma umholi elokhu enqaba isaziso, ukulondeka kwengqondo kuyanyamalala. UColleagues uyayeka ukuveza imibono yokusungula ngoba ulindele ukuthotshiswa. Umphumela ukwenza isinqumo esicatshaziwe okuvala ijubane elifiphaza izimpawu ezibuthakathaka nezingozi ezivelayo. Ukuhlolwa kokuzigodla okungalawuleki kuyakwazi ukuhlukanisa nokuziqhayisa okuqinisekile. Umholi oziphetheyo ungazitholi zinhlangothi ezimbili zigcwele.

Ukuhaha: Lapho “Okwengeziwe” Kuqeda Ukuthembana

Ukuhaha kudlulela ngalé kokuthenga imali. Kubonakala njengokuqongelela ukuthenga ngesikweleti, ukuqongelela ulwazi, noma ukukhipha imithombo engaqinisa iqembu. Umholi oqhutshwa ukuswela okunganeliseki uyobheka ingxoxo ngayinye njengomdlalo wezero-sum. Amabhonasi aba yiyo kuphela ekwazi ukukhipha inzuzo, ukuqaphela kubekwa ngokuqinile, futhi ukubambisana kuthathelwa indawo ngokuncintisana okungalawuleki. Ukuntenga kwengqondo kuyasebenziseka: ukwethemba okungamandla aphakeme, futhi isisusa seqembu siyaphela. INhlangano ye - American Psychology ibhale indlela indawo ekhokhela ngayo ukubambisana okukhulu kokuzincintisana nokuziphana kwezimiso. Ngokumelene nokukhomba okunjalo, inkolelo yokuthi “sikhona kulokhu kuyinto engenakufinyeliswa ngayo.

Ulaka: Intukuthelo Ethulisa Ukuthukululwa

Ulaka akudingeki luhlanganise ukumemeza. Kungathatha uhlobo lwesijeziso esiqinile, ukuthotshiswa umphakathi, noma ukusabela ngokungenakulinganiswa ngephutha elincane. Abaholi abasebenzisa intukuthelo badala isiko lokwesaba, lapho umgomo oyinhloko ukugwema ukusolwa kunokuba ufinyelele amandla aphezulu. Ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjalo, izingozi zinyamalala. Umzamo ushiywe ngoba ukuthatha isinyathelo okuhlulekile kungase kubangele ukuthukuthela okungalawuleki. Ukuhlasela okungokomzwelo kuqinisekisa ukuthi umholi ufaka igciwane eqenjini lonke, kuholela ekubangeleni ukukhathazeka okukhulu nasekulahlweni. Imithombo yentukuthelo evela ku APA[FLD:1] [FLT] [FLD] [FD] kuqokomisa ukuthi intukuthelo engapheli kulowo muntu ophakeme uphinde uhlasele amalungu eqenjini wemizwayo, iqhubekiswe amalungu eqenjini lemizwayo.

Umona: Ushevu Ohlukanisa Izinkolo Zokucwasana

Umona mhlawumbe ungumbulali weqembu othule kakhulu. Umholi onomona akakwazi ukugubha ukunqoba kontanga; kunalokho, bachaza impumelelo yomunye umnyango njengokunqotshwa komuntu siqu. Lokhu kucabanga kuholela ekugcineni izinto, ekuhlaseleni iqophelo eliphambili, futhi ngokungasebenzisi izindleko zamabomu. Izindleko zenhlangano yikona okuhlukanisayo: inyathelo elisebenzayo elidinga ukuthenga umnyango owenziweyo, futhi “isithukusi esimelene nowenu” kubambeka. ukubheja umona ngenhloso, kubonisa ukuthi umona owenziwe nge-mona owenziwe ngomona okhuthaza ukuzihlobisa kobungane kanye nesifiso sokudonsa ubudlova. [ukuhola, kuguqula abantu abaholayo.]

Okujabulisayo: Imingcele Efiphele Nethembana Ngokunganqamuki

Uma kubhekwana nochwepheshe, inkanuko ibonakala njengendlela yokusebenzisa inkanuko yobulili emsulwa futhi njengendlela yokusebenzisa isibindi noma amandla esikhundla ukuze alawule ubuhlobo ukuze aneliseke. Uma umholi ephatha ukuxhumana emsebenzini njengomthombo wokunqoba, ikhubaza isisekelo sokwethembana kochwepheshe. Amagumbi afiphaza, ukukhetha kuvela, futhi labo abangezona ingxenye yeqembu elingaphakathi bazizwa behlaziswa noma bexhatshaziwe. Imiphumela ngokuvamile ihlanganisa ukuhlaziswa, ukulimala kwedumela, nokonakala komphakathi lapho kungekho muntu oqinisekayo ukuthi ithonya lithola noma liyashintsha. Ukuwohloka kokuziphatha okunenhlonipho kuveza ngisho namaqembu ahlelwe kahle.

Ukudla: Umbono Oweqisayo Owuhlolayo Lomsebenzi

Imfuno engapheli yokuhola ukusetshenziswa kwemali eyengeziwe, ukuhlelwa kwemali, ukuqashelwa kakhulu, ngaphandle kokunaka impilo yebhizinisi. Kufana nomphathi ongafuni ukuphathisa abanye umsebenzi ngoba efuna ukulawula wonke umsebenzi obalulekile, noma umphathi ophikelelayo ukuba khona kuyo yonke imihlangano futhi abese esula ngomzuzu wokugcina, ukuchitha amahora amaningi. Umholi omidlayo udla kakhulu ukunaka nokudla, ashiyela abanye indawo yokukhula. Imibiko eqondile iyashesha ngoba ukuba khona kukamholi kuvimbela noma ubani ukuba enze izinhlangano ezinengqondo. Imithombo okufanele iqondiswe wonke iqembu ukuba lingene esimweni somuntu esidinga ukunganelisiwe.

Indwangu: Ukunganaki Okubulala Iqhwa

Ubuvila abukona nje ukuvilapha; kuwukwehluleka ukwenza uma kudingekile ngokokuziphatha noma ngokwezimiso. Umholi webheja uhlehlisa izinqumo ezinzima, angazinaki izingxabano ezivuselelekayo, futhi ahlehlise izingxoxo ezinzima ezingaqeda izingxabano. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izingxabano ezingaxazululeki zinqwabelana phakathi kokugxeka. Abantu abakhathazekile bayahamba ngoba ababoni themba loshintsho. Ukungalawuleki komholi kuveza ukuthi akukho lutho olufanele ukuveza ukungaphatheki, okuqeda inkanuko ebangela ukusebenza okuphakeme.

Ukuhola Kobuzalwane Njengomlwi

Isiko lobuholi bobuzalwane − ngezinye izikhathi livezwa njengobuholi bezisebenzi, ukunakekelwa kobungane, noma ubuphathi obuqondile, kunikeza ithonya eliphikisanayo neSini Esibulalayo Sesixhenxe. Lisekelwe embonweni wokuthi indima yomholi akumelwe ikhokhwe kodwa ukukhonza, hhayi ukubusa kodwa ukuphakamisa. Lesi simiso siveza ukuhlakanipha okudala okumisa umholi njengowokuqala phakathi kwabalinganayo, ebekwe ngokuvikela isithunzi nokwanda kwelungu ngalinye.

Umholi wobufundisi akanciphisi isigaba sobufundisi; uveza igunya njengesibopho sokuzihlukanisa kwabantu bonke. Uma ukhuluma ngeqembu njengobuzalwane noma ubudade, ukhuthaza isimiso sokulandisa komunye nomunye. Umholi oyisimo ubuthakathaka, uphebeza imibono ephikisanayo, futhi usebenzela ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akukho muntu onikelayo oncitshisiweyo. Lokhu kuphambene nokuzihlukanisa. Kuthatha indawo ukuhaha ngesibopho sokuhlanganisa isibopho sokulandisa, ulaka ngokulinganisela ukubekezela, nomona ngokugubha imikhosi yangempela yamandla abanye. Ngokuhlanganisa lemibango yobuhlobo, inhlangano yakha amasosha omzimba amelene negciwane lezono elisakazekayo.

Ubuhle Obunezela Esonweni Ngasinye Esibulalayo

Ikhambi elivamile lalemikhuba emibi laliyiqoqo lezimfanelo ezinhle ezifanayo.

  • I- Ukuziqhayisa [ kuphikisa ukuqhosha: Zilolonge ukufuna ukunikeza inzuzo masonto onke, futhi amalungu eqembu lokuthenga ngesikweletu obala aphumelele.
  • [ Ukuzimela [ kuphikisa ukuhaha: Ukuhlukanisa ukuqashelwa, uhlelo, kanye nokuthuthukisa amathuba ngalé kwesiyingi sakho sangaphakathi.
  • Iphakamiso ivimbela ulaka: i-“propating [umthetho wamahora angu-24]" ngaphambi kokusabela ezindabeni ezicasulayo, futhi iqeqeshe ngokulawula okungokomzwelo.
  • [ Isiko [ liphikisana nomona: Bhala amanothi okuncoma aqotho; sekela umqondo womngane emhlanganweni lapho kungekho khona.
  • [ Inkanuko iphikisana nenkanuko: Ukumisa nokulinganisa imingcele yokuziphatha okucacile, futhi ubambe wonke umuntu (kuhlanganise nawe ngokwakho) ungazibala ngenqubo yokuhlukunyezwa okungalawuleki.
  • Ibhande lokudla : Linganisa isikhathi sakho sokukhuluma emihlanganweni, uphathise imisebenzi emikhulu, futhi ugweme ukusho igama lokugcina.
  • [ Ibhethri enqandayo : Beka izikhawu ezimisiwe, lungisa izingxabano ngokushesha, futhi ngokubonakalayo uhileleke emsebenzini onzima wokwakha impucuko.

Impi Yokulwa Nempi Yangaphakathi

Ingxabano yangaphakathi ayiqali ukuvela ngaphandle kwesixwayiso. Iqala kancane kancane ngenxa yokungacasuli, ukungalungi, nokusele okungokomzwelo kwesono esingalawulwa. Uma ukuqhosha komholi kuthulisa ukuphikisana, ukuphikisana okungalawuleki kuyakhula. Uma ukuhaha kugxilisa imithombo, izimpawu ziqala ukucasukela amaphutha. Umsindo ohanjwa yisifuthefuthe ubangela umjikelezo. Impi yokulwa nokulwa kwangaphakathi, ngakho, ayilwiwa engxabanweni eyodwa kodwa ezinzweni zobuholi bezimiso zokuziphatha zansuku zonke. UMzalwana ufuna ukuba le mithetho emincane ibonakale futhi ixazululwe ngaphambi kokuba ibonakale idlale amaqembu.

Imikhuba ehlelwayo ingasiza. Izindlela ezivamile “zihlolwayo” ezigxila empilweni ehlangeneyo − hhayi nje umsebenzi wama-million org org ukuvumela amaqembu ukuba asho izingxabano ngaphandle kokubekwa icala. Indima eguquguqukayo yokuzifihla iqinisekisa ukuthi amandla ayahlanganwa. Ukuqeqesha kuhlomisa amalungu eqembu ukuba abhekane nezikhalo ngokuqondile kunokuwacunula ngokuhleba. Uma iqembu lisebenzisa icebo lokuthi zonke izikhundla ezichumayo, izono zilahlekelwa izindawo zalo ezicashiswe kuzo. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuqhosha akukwazi ukusinda endaweni lapho ukuthobeka kuvuzwa khona ngokuthemba. Umona uma umnikelo womuntu ngamunye ukhokhelwa futhi ugujwa obala.

Isimiso Esisheshayo Sokuxwayisa Ngentuthu Yobuthi

Abaholi abafuna ngobuqotho ukuvimbela impi yangaphakathi kudingeka basheshe babone ukuziphatha okubangela isono. Lokhu kusho ukudlulela ngalé kokuhlolwa kwesithembiso futhi baye ekwazini kokuziphatha. Izimpawu eziyinhloko zihlanganisa:

  • Ukuziphakamisa: Isibonelo sabaholi ngaso sonke isikhathi sinegama lokugcina, noma ukusebenzisa isimo ukuvala izingxoxo.
  • I-' Ukwabiwa okungahlangabezwanga kwezabelo zemisebenzi, lapho kukhethwa khona ezimbalwa ezikhethiwe njalo.
  • Wrath:[ ijika eliphezulu phakathi kwezisebenzi ezibika kumuntu othile, kanye nezici zomhlangano ezivinjelwe.
  • Envy:[ ukhononda ngokuphathwa ngokungafanele okudwetshwa eminyangweni, hhayi ukwenza.
  • [th:[ Iphindwa izikhathi eziphuthiwe ezinyatheloni ezingokwesiko, njengokugxuma zonke izikhawu ze Q&A.

Ngokuthi lemiklamo iwukwehluleka kobuholi kunokuba isole, inhlangano ishintsha ingxoxo isuke ekutheni “onzima” “yibe yiziphi izimfanelo ezingekho.” Lokhu kungabi nabuntu kwenza kube lula ukungenela ngaphandle kokuvusa ukusabela kokuzivikela.

Izinyathelo Eziwusizo Zokuhlakulela Ukuhola Kobuzalwane

Ukuguqula ifilosofi eholayo ibe umkhuba wansuku zonke kudinga ukuklanywa ngenhloso. Ngezansi kunamasu aqinisekile noma yimuphi umholi angawamukela ngokushesha, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungakanani umkhakha wokuhlela.

1. Izizungezo Zokulandisa Zontanga Ze - Institute Institute

Yakha amaqembu amancane, asemazingeni aphakathi amane kuya kwayisithupha ahlangana nyanga zonke ukuze axoxe ngezinselele zangempela emsebenzini ngelens yezimfanelo. Umthetho wesisekelo uwukuthi ilungu ngalinye liletha isimo esisodwa lapho lilwa khona. /mhlawumbe lizama ukulwa nentukuthelo noma umona(ne) futhi leliqembu libasiza ukuba benze ukusabela okuhle. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, leziziyingi ziba umthombo wokuveza izinselele eziqotho ezivimbela ukuqhosha.

Izimiso Zokwamukelwa Ngokulandelana

Uma inzuzo yakho yamanje iletha imiklomelo yezinkanyezi eziphambili, ihlwanyela ukuhaha nomona. Iletha imiklomelo yomphakathi egubha ukubambisana, umeluleki, nesibindi sokuphatha. Ngokwesibonelo, “umklomelo wobuzalwane” ungaya kumuntu ohlanganyela ngokuzithandela umsebenzi ophezulu wokuboleka isibopho sokubonga kumngane ongaphansi komsha. Ngokubala umnikelo ohlangeneyo, ubulala izono zeoksijini.

3. Hlakulela Ubuhle Ekuhlaseleni Nokuthuthukisa

Imibuzo yengxoxo ingaphenya ukuthobeka (“Ngitshele ngesinqumo oye wasiguqula ngenxa yokufakwa komunye”) noma ukukhuthala (“Bhalisa isikhathi osidlulisa phakathi kwesiqalo esinzima somphakathi lapho bekungaba lula ukukuvumela ukuba ushice”). Uma izimpawu zokuthuthuka zihlanganisa ukuboniswa ngokucacile kwalezi zimfanelo ezinhle, azibi yizinto ezingcono kodwa ziyimfuneko emsebenzini.

4. Ukungaguquguquki kwezithombe okuvela phezulu

Umholi omkhulu onamandla olungisa ukuqhosha nobheja ukhuluma ngemizabalazo yabo obala. Lapho umphathi wenkampani etshela le nkampani ukuthi, “Ngazithola ngiqongelela umsebenzi othile ngenyanga edlule ngoba ngangesaba ukuthi omunye umuntu angase angiqhayise,” unikeza imvume yokuba abanye bazihlole bona. Ukuvuma okunjalo kwenza abantu bazizwe bethembekile lapho izingxabano zangaphakathi zingaxazululwa khona ngaphambi kokuba zicekele phansi.

5. Ukuphelelwa Imithombo Yangaphandle

Abaholi akudingeki baphinde baqale kabusha ukuhlanganisa isondo lobuhle. Amakhulu eminyaka okuhlakanipha akhona emibhalweni esukela kumaStoyiku kuya kulokhu okusebenza kwengqondo yanamuhla. Amaqembu akhuthazayo ukuba afunde izimiso zokuziphatha [[FLT: 0] noma ahlanganyele ezindaweni zokusebenzela ekwazini ukuxazulula ajulise amagama ahlanganyelwe. Umgomo wokwakha uhlelo lokuhlakanipha ukuze uma ilungu leqembu lithi, “Ngicabanga ukuthi siyangena emoneni, . Wonke umuntu uyaqonda ukuxilonga nokwelapha.

Ukusekela Ukuguqula

Ukungenela okukodwa okungavamile ukumelana nokudonsa amandla adonsela phansi kwemikhuba yakudala. Ukusuka ebubini bokuhamba ngesivinini kuya ekuholeni kobuzalwane kudinga ukuhlelwa kwemicikilisho kanye ne-metric. Cabangela ukuhlanganisa “i-virtue - in” lapho kuqala imihlangano yobuholi: umuntu ngamunye uhlanganyela isikhashana esontoni elandulelayo lapho enza khona enye yezimo ezibonisa ukuthi ayilona icebo lobungane. Lokhu akugcini nje ngokwenza ulimi lube oluvamile, kodwa futhi kwenza ukuba kubonakale izenzo zokunakekela okuthule okungaqashelwanga.

At the organizational level, pulse surveys can ask targeted questions: “In the last month, have you seen a colleague act with generosity to resolve a conflict?” or “How safe do you feel offering a dissenting opinion to your immediate manager?” These questions measure the presence—or absence—of brotherly leadership and provide data to course-correct before sins take root. When such metrics are linked to manager performance reviews, the system reinforces the behavior.

Umphumela Oyingozi Ngaphandle Kwenhlangano

Inzuzo yokunqoba iSino Esibulalayo esinguSeven Armaged Sins ngokuhola kobuzalwane idlulela ngalé kwemiphumela emincane kakhulu. Imisebenzi ehlanganisa lezi zimfanelo iba izimpawu ezisemzimbeni ezingcono emphakathini onempilo. Abaqashi abathola isithunzi, intethelelo, futhi bahlangane ngezinjongo bafaka lezozindlela emikhayeni yabo, ukuhileleka kwabo emphakathini, nokuthembisana kwabo umphakathi. Umholi ozimisele ukubekezela nokukhuthala uba umeluleki hhayi nje kuphela emibhalweni yabo eqondile kodwa kubo bonke abayaziyo. Ngalendlela, impi yangaphakathi ngokumelene nesono iba inzuzo enokuthula.

Isiphetho

Iziphakamiso Ezisatha zeSidyono Ezibulalayo azizona ezedlulelwa isikhathi; ziyibalazwe lokuthambekela kobuntu okuqeda ukubambisana nokwethemba. Noma yimuphi umholi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhloniswe kahle kangakanani, angawela ezifweni zobumpumputhe, indlala, noma ibheja lokuhaha, noma ibheja lokugoga. Indlela yobuholi bobuzalwane ayithembisi ukuphelela; ithembisa umphakathi oqaphile, onozwela owembulala ngokushesha futhi ohlangabezana nazo ngezimfanelo ezihambelanayo. Ngokumukela ukuthobeka, ukuphana, ukubekezela, isineke, isineke, isineke, nenkuthalo, amaqembu aguqula ukuphikisana okungaba khona ekuxabaniseni kokwakha izinto, nokuphikisana okuqotho. Impi yangaphakathi ayizuliswanga ngezindlela eziphambili kodwa isibopho sansuku zonke sokubona omunye umuntu njengomunye njengomunye oncintisana naye njengodade ababoshene kanye nanjengabo.