Umsebenzi Ohlala Njalo Wezono Eziyisikhombisa Ezibulalayo

Iminyaka engaphezu kwenkulungwane nengxenye, uhlu lwezono eziyisikhombisa ezibulalayo , ukuhaha, umona, ukuminza, ulaka , nebhethri luye lwathonya imicabango yokuziphatha yezwe laseNtshonalanga. Aliqalwa njengethuluzi lemfundiso engokweBhayibheli kodwa njengethuluzi lendela eliklanywe u-Evagrius Pactus ekhulwini lesine leminyaka futhi kamuva lacwengisiswa uPapa Gregory I, lokhu konakala kwakuhloselwe ukudweba indawo ephakathi yomphefumulo. Namuhla, kusebenza njengezinto ezingcwele zenkolo. Basebenza njengecebo lokuqonda ukuphuka nokulungisa isibopho esiseduze sobuntu, ikakhulukazi isivumelwano esikhulu, esivame esishelelayo, esivame ukuhlanganisa ubunye. Abazalwane lapha bahlanganisa imikhaya ekhethiwe yempi, amaqembu emidlalo, amaqembu ehlangene, izinhlangano zezemisebenzi, izinhlangano zezemisebenzi, nemiphakathi yeze yezentengo.

Izono eziyisikhombisa ezibulalayo ngokuvamile zichazwa kabi njengezithiya nje. Eqinisweni, zingamandla anamandla ahlanganisa ukuthembana okunganqandeki, okuqeda ukuhlanganisa noma yiliphi iqembu lobuzalwane. Idrama yobuzalwane evivinywa yi-arctic esobala: ukuvumelana kokuqala okuphazamiseka yisifebe senhloko- dolobha, ukukhaphela okunqamula isibopho, futhi ngolunye usuku, futhi ngo-___kanye) uhambo olunejubane lokuhlenga. Lesi sihloko sihlola indlela isono ngasinye esisebenza ngayo phakathi kobuzalwane, izindlela eziqondile zokukhaphela ezibekwayo, futhi izimo lapho ukubuyisana kweqiniso kuba nokwenzeka khona.

Izimbangela Zasendulo Nokunconywa Kwezono Kwanamuhla

Igama lesiLatini lisho ukuthi “amaphutha amaphutha,” lisikhumbuza ukuthi lezizono zibhekwa njengezinto ezihamba phambili lapho ezinye izono zisuka khona. UThomas Aquinas waphikisa ngokuthi ukuziqhenya kwakungesona isono esisodwa phakathi kwabaningi kodwa uhlobo lwaso kanye lwesono [1] ukuphambuka ngokweqile ebuhlotsheni obulungile nabanye futhi neqiniso. Uma sisebenzisa le-lens kubazalwane, sibona ukuthi konke ukuchachachamba eqeni eliseduze kusuka esidlweni esigcwele isiyaluyaluyaluza umuntu ngamunye. Lokhu kuqonda akunanzi lutho enkolweni. Isimo sengqondo sanamuhla siyaqaphela amandla afanayo eqenjini, lapho iqembu lamadoda, lapho i-narcis, iwumona, neqembu (ibhulo) likhohliswa (iqembu).

Ukuqeda ingxoxo, kuyasiza ukuchaza ngokufingqiwe izono eziyisikhombisa, hhayi njengezingaqondakali kodwa njengezikhona njengezinto eziphendukezelwe zesifiso esibonakala eqenjini lansuku zonke. Ukuhlolwa kosizo lweqembu elishicilelwe iJournal of Organisation Behavior[ iveza isimo somuntu ngamunye esingavinjelwe futhi esingavinjelwe yizisekelo zokuziqhayisa nokuhaha, okuthiwa yizimbangela eziphambili ze “ngozi ekhonweni” ezisezingeni eliphezulu elihlangene ([[[FLT]]]] isophelo ]). Ukuqonda lezi zindlela kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuvimbela ukukhaphela ukukhohlisa okuvame kangaka.

Ukuqhosha: Umklamo Wokwakheka

KuDante's Kuyi-Group Comedy, abaqhoshayo bagobe phansi ngaphansi kwamatshe asindayo, umfanekiso oyinkondlo wendlela ukuziqhenya okuzihlukanisa ngayo nokuzithwalisa umthwalo. Phakathi kobuzalwane, ukuqhosha kubonakala njengokungakwazi ukuthola impendulo, ukucindezelwa ukuba ulawule ukwenza izinqumo, kanye nokuzitshela ukuthi umnikelo wakho uyigugu kakhulu kunabanye. Kuyisono sebanga elimile. Umzalwane oqhoshayo akabheki ubuhlobo njengesibopho esiqonde ngqo kodwa njengesigaba sokubusa esilinganayo.

Ukukhashelwa okubangelwa ukuqhosha ngokuvamile kuwukulahlwa okuthatha kancane, okungenaluzwela. Umholi − noma iliphi ilungu elithi ukuqhosha linqabe ukuvuma iphutha, lisole abanye lapho imisebenzi ihluleka, futhi lilahle izidingo ezingokomzwelo zeqembu. Ngokwesibonelo, iqembu le-Drecus elithuthukisayo, umthofu wobuchwepheshe olokhu ulawula izinqumo ezihlangene zokwakha ngenxa yokuzisola okuphakeme ngenxa yokuzisola kwalo siqu uhlwaya igqubu ekugcineni elilimazayo. Amanye amalungu azizwa enciphile, aphelelwa amandla, futhi ithemba elake lakha ubuzalwane baphela kuze kube yilapho ukuhlehlela okusemthethweni noma ukuphuma okungokomzwelo kungenakuvinjelwa.

Ukuhaha: Ushevu weqanda

Ukuhaha kuyisono sokuzuza ngokunganeliseki, kodwa ebuhlotsheni akuvamile ukuba kukhathalele imali kuphela. Kubonakala njengokuqongelela ukuthenga, ukufisa amathuba angcono kakhulu, noma ukusebenzisa kabi ingcebo ukuze umuntu athuthuke. Iphutha eliyinhloko elingokwengqondo lokuhaha liguqula ubuhlobo bokuchichima kobuntu. Ubuzalwane buchuma ngombono wokuthi impumelelo yomuntu icebisa konke; ukuhaha kuqeda lowombono.

Ukukhaphela ngokuhaha kuvame ukuthatha indawo yesivumelwano sezezimali. Cabangela iqembu eliqalwe ekuqaleni, iqembu labazalwane lesimanje. Uma umsunguli othile exoxa ngasese ngesabelo esikhulu noma isivumelwano esiseceleni nabanikazi bezimali, baye bashintsha ukwethembeka kwabo bonke ukuze bazuze. Inxeba lilimaza kakhulu kunemali elahlekile; litshela amanye amalungu ukuthi iminyaka yawo yobusuku beba sebusuku futhi ukuchachacha kwawo kuyimishini yomunye umuntu. Ukululama kulokhu kukhohlisa akudingi ukukhonakwa kuphela kodwa kudinga ukuqondiswa kwezimiso eziyisisekelo zeqembu ezihambisana nokubonakala nokulunga.

Ihlaya: Ibhomu Eliseduze

Ilukuluku livame ukuncishiselwa ngokungafanele ekubeni nesifiso sobulili, kodwa emkhakheni wobuzalwane lisho noma yikuphi ukunxanela okungahleleki okuphakamisa ukwaneliseka okukhulu ngaphezu kwezibopho ezikhona zobuhlobo obuseduze. Kungaba ubulili, njengalapho ilungu liphishekela umngane welinye ilungu, noma kungaba ukufisa ukusha, amandla, noma okuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo okukhulu okuphazamisa ukuzinza kweqembu. ULust ubheka ubuzalwane njengesizinda esiyisici esiyisidala esivusa amadlingozi.

Ukukhashelwa kwenkanuko kunamandla. ISales esentsha, enekhono kakhulu ekhomba engosini ye-Draice ingaqala impikiswano eyimfihlo nomngane womshado osebenza naye. Uma itholakalisiwe, ukuphuka kuyinhlekelele hhayi nje kuphela kwamalungu aseduze kodwa kuwo wonke iqembu, okumelwe ukuba isebenzise indawo egcwele ukwethembeka okuhlukene, ukuhleba, nokuchayeka ngokomthetho. Ubuzalwane buhlukanisa ngoba isono sinesikhali sokuhlobana. I-Redentifiction ingenzeka, kodwa idinga imingcele ecacile, futhi ngokuvamile i-media yokwakha kabusha indawo ephephile. Umsebenzi wesazi sezokusebenza kwengqondo uJohn Gottman unikeza ubudlelwane bokuthemba obuhambisana: ukubuyisana: akunakuxolisa; kumelwe kube ukushintsha okuqhubekayo, okubonisayo. [FL:] [FF]

Ukulangezela: Ukuwohloka Okungasho lutho

Umona uyisono esiyimfihlo. Ngokungafani nokuhaha, okufuna ukuba nakho, umona awunakukwazi ukubekezelela okuhle komunye. Ebuzalwaneni, umona ungahlasela ubuchwepheshe bomngane, ukulawula okulula komngane, noma ukuphila komkhaya okuzinzile komngane. Ilungu elinomona alifuni nje lokho omunye anakho; lifuna ukuba omunye alahlekelwe yikho, anciphe.

Ukukhaphela ngomona kuyinto engabonakali. Eqenjini eliqondisa izinhlelo zemikhumbi, omunye umthuthukisi angase ahlale elulaza iminikelo yontanga, asuse igama lawo ezingomeni, noma asuse ithonya lawo ngokukhohlisa emihlanganweni yabathengi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isisulu somona siyahlukaniswa futhi idumela labo limosha. Amandla obuzalwane aphelelwa ngenxa yokuthi umona ususa ihlombe lokufuna ukuzuza impumelelo. Umona uphoqelela iqembu ukuba lithuthukise isiko lokugujwa kwangempela kwezipho zelungu ngalinye qhawe futhi likhutshwe ngezenzo zokubonga nokubonga.

Ukudla: Ukukhuluphala Okukhathaza Abanye

Igluttony, ngokwesiko ukuminza ngokweqile ekudleni nasophuzweni, kuhlanganisa ubuzalwane nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lombono oweqisayo ophuca abanye. Kungaba indaba engokoqobo yokubuka lapho umculi elokhu ekhipha khona ingxenye ehlanganyelwe kunyaka ngamunye, noma ukuminza okungokomfanekiso ukuze anakwe, ikweleta, noma intethelelo. Ilungu eliminzile lisebenzisa ingxenye engaphezu kwengxenye yalo yemithombo elinganiselwe yeqembu (isikhathi, isikhathi, i-asemouse, i-media, noma impahla engokwemizwa.

Ukukhohliswa okuwumphumela kungase kubonakale kuncane ekuzihlukaniseni kodwa kugcwele. Uma umuntu ehluleka njalo ukuthwala ingxenye yemithwalo esebenzayo, [1] Ukuvala ingxenye yemibhalo ebhalwe phansi, izimbungulu ezingafakwanga, abathengi abangadinwanga, baphoqelela abanye ukuba basebenze ngokweqile. Ukucasuka kungabi ngenxa yesenzakalo esisodwa esiphawulekayo kodwa ngenxa yokuthi umholi weminikelo wansuku zonke akalingani nhlobo. Ubuzalwane obuphukile ngenxa yobunzima bokungalungi. Ukukhululwa kuhlanganisa ukubuyiselwa kobukhonkolo obuqinile: umthetho obhaliwe wemithwalo yemfanelo, ukuveza ukukhanya kwesikhathi, kanye nokuzimisela kokungagwegwegwesi okubonakala kuwo wonke amalungu.

Ulaka: Impicabadala Eqeda Izibopho

Ulaka luyintukuthelo ephunyukayo. Ukufutheka, amazwi noma umzimba, okubeka kuqala ukukhululwa kwentukuthelo ngenxa yokulondoloza ubuhlobo. Kubazalwane, ulaka luvame ukuqhuma ngezikhathi eziphezulu zokucindezela (adrived meters), umkhiqizo ohlulekile, ukungavumelani kokwakha okuvele kube umuntu siqu. Intukuthelo ngokwayo ayisona isono; iwumzwelo obonisa ukuthi umngcele uweqiwe. Umsindo uba isono esibulalayo lapho ufakwa egqunyweni bese usetshenziswa ekulimazekeni.

Ukukhaphela ngolaka kuthathelwa indawo ngokushesha futhi kubangele isibazi. Umklami omkhulu osebenza e-Draiduus ahlola angase athethise umthuthukisi ophansi phambi kweqembu lonke, esebenzisa ulwazi ngolwethemba lwabo lokungalondeki ukuze abangele umonakalo omkhulu. Amazwi angeke asetshenziswe. Ukuthemba okuvumela ukuhlaselwa kuthathelwe indawo ukwesaba. Amanye amalungu azibonela ngalokhu futhi aqale ukuzifihla, amaphutha, futhi aqhele ngokomzwelo ukuze agweme ukuba isisulu esilandelayo. Ubuzalwane busebenzisa iqoqo labantu abaqaphilelayo. Ukuchayeka entukutheloni akudingi ukuxolisa nje kodwa ukushintshwa kwemizwelo okungalawuleki, ngokuvamile ngokusekela okungochwepheshe, kanye nenqubo engokokuvikela okungokomzwelo. Inhlangano yaseMelika ye-Psynxinsciod inikeza iziqondiso ezihambisana nentukuthelo ([FFFF]]])

Isloth: Imfihlo Yokuzibophezela

Ubuvila abuwona ubuvila ngomqondo we-colloquial. Isiko lezenkolo libuqonda njenge- acedia ```ukwehluleka ukukhathalela izinto ezingokomoya'''''''''''', ukwenqaba izimfuno zothando nemisebenzi. Kubazalwane, ibheja lithatha isimo sokuyekelela okungapheli, ukuhluleka ukuveza lapho kusemcimbini, nokungathandi ukwenza umsebenzi ongokomzwelo wokulondoloza ubuhlobo. Ilungu lebhejaba likhona emzimbeni kodwa lingekho emoyeni.

Lesisono sikhaphela ubuzalwane ngokunganaki. Uma umphathi womkhiqizo enganaki ukusekela iqembu labo emhlanganweni ogxekayo, hhayi ngenxa yenzondo kodwa ngenxa yokunganaki okungenaluhlu, lonke iqembu libhekana nemiphumela elingayizuzanga. Ukukhaphela kungokokunganaki, futhi inxeba lalo umuzwa ogcwele wokuthi ubuzalwane abuyona into yokuqala. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, amalungu akhuthele ayavutha ngenxa yokuthwala isisindo sokudilizwa. Ukukhululwa kudinga ukuvuselelwa kwemisebenzi, ukuvuselelwa kwesizathu sokuba umsebenzi weqembu, kanye nokubuyiselwa komkhuba ovuselela injongo.

Ukufa Kokukhaphela Ebuzalwaneni

Ukungathembeki akuyona inkathi yokukhaphela. Kuyinkathi eqondile ehlukene yesibopho sobungane esiyisikhombisa esibulalayo. Ebuhlotsheni obuchazwa ngezono eziyisikhombisa ezibulalayo, ukukhaphela kuvame ukuqhubekela phambili izigaba ezintathu: imbewu, isenzo, nemiphumela. Imbewu iwukuvuma ngaphakathi esonweni (8) isikhathi sokuziqhenya lapho umuntu enquma isahlulelo sakhe sidlula bonke abanye, noma isikhathi somona lapho ejabulela ngasese ukuhluleka komngane. Isenzo siwukuziphatha kwangaphandle okuphula ukuphepha noma umthetho ocacile weqembu. Umphumela uwukukhukhuleka kokuphepha okungokwengqondo, izinganekwane zizitshela zona ngokwazo ngesenzakalo, nokulungiswa kweqembu.

Ukucwaninga ngokukhohliswa ezinhlanganweni eziphezulu ezibangela ukukhohlakala njengezisebenzi ezicisha umlilo namaqembu okuhlinza kubonisa ukuthi ngisho nokungathembeki okukodwa okucatshangelwayo kungalulaza ukusebenza kweqembu unomphela ngaphandle kokuba kubhekiswe kumthetho wokubuyisana ohlelwe kahle (] umthombo[). Izono eziyisikhombisa ezibulalayo zinikeza amagama okuthi igama lempande yokukhaphela, okuyisinyathelo sokuqala esibucayi. “Into esenze saphulwayo akukona nje ukuthi uthathe ityala; kwakuwubugovu. Akukona nje ukuthi umemeza; kwakuyintukuthelo.” Ukuvala isono ngendlela efanele ukuze kulungiswe.

Ukukhululwa: Ukukhulula isibopho esiphukile

Ukukhululwa akuzenzakaleli futhi akusheshi. Kudinga uchungechunge lwezinyathelo ezibonisa amandla adonsela phansi okungathembeki. Izincwadi ezichaza ukubuyiselwa kobulungisa nesinqumo seqembu eziphikisanayo ziveza izici ezimbalwa ezingathandeki: ukuvuma, ukulungisa, ukushintsha kwezakhiwo, nokuqondisa ukubuyisana.

Ukuqaphela Nokukhala

Lowo owenze lokhu kukhaphela kumelwe asho ngokucacile ukuthi wenzani, asho isono esabangela ukuba avume, futhi achaze umonakalo owabangelwa abantu ngabanye kanye neqembu. Lokhu akuwona ukuxolisa okuphoqelelwe; akunakulinganisela. Ezinqubweni eziningi eziphumelelayo zokubuyisana, amaqembu acasulayo aqala ngokukhuluma, qhatha imiphumela. Umsebenzi womkhapheli uwukulalela bese ephinda lokho akuzwa, ebonisa ukuqonda okuqotho. Lesisigaba kuphela singathatha amasonto noma izinyanga ngaphambi kokuba kudluliswe ukuphula okukhulu.

Ubufebe Nezifebe

Nakuba okunye ukulimala kungenakuncishiswa, izinyathelo zikakhonkolo kumelwe zithathwe ukuze kubuyiselwe ukungebiwa. Uma ukuhaha kuholele ekwebiweni kwezimali, ukukhokhwa okugcwele kwenzalo kuyakheka. Uma ibheja libangela abanye ukuba bathwale umthwalo, ilungu elalingawuhlanganisi lingathatha imisebenzi engathandeki kakhulu isikhathi esithile. Ukubuyiselwa akuyona isijeziso kodwa ukuphawula ukuthi umkhapheli uzimisele ukuthwala izindleko zokuphinde ahlangane nobuzalwane.

Ushintsho Olungokwesakhiwo Nezinqola Zokugada

Abazalwane abanakubuyela ezimweni ezifanayo ezazenza isono sibe khona. Izakhiwo ezintsha zibalulekile: imishini yokuhlola nsuku zonke encishiswa ukuqhosha, ukuqondisa ngokwezimali okuvimbela ukuxhaphaza kobugovu, ukulwa nemithetho evimbela ulaka ngaphambi kokuba luphathwe kabi, futhi isusa imiphumela yokungakhathaleli okungalawuleki. Ubuzalwane obumane nje buthemba okuhle ngemva kokukhashelwa okukhulu buyokhashelwa futhi. Ushintsho lwezezimali lubonisa ukuthi leli qembu liye lafunda futhi lazivikela amalungu alo.

Ukubuyisana Okuhlolwayo Nokubekezela Okuxegayo

Ukukhululwa akusona isenzakalo esisodwa kodwa inqubo yokwakha kabusha ukuthembana ngesilinganiso esincane. Umkhapheli kumelwe aphile ngokubhekisiswe inkathi ethile, hhayi njengehlazo kodwa njengesibopho sokulandisa. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma ukuziphatha kwabo kungaguquguquki, iqembu lingaqala ukukhuluma ngokuphuka kobudala obudlule. Intethelelo, ngomqondo wengqondo, kuyisinqumo sokuyeka ilungelo lokuphindisela. Ayiyisula inkumbulo noma ibuyisela ukusondelana okuphelele. Kuyisinqumo salokho okuyo okuyovula umnyango ukuba ube omusha, ohlakaniphile, futhi ngokuvamile ujule kakhulu kunangaphambili.

Lapho Ukukhululwa Kuhluleka: Ukudunyazwa Okuhloniphekile

Akuwona wonke abazalwane abavalelwe izono ezibulalayo abangasinda noma bangasinda. Ngezinye izikhathi isono sigcwele ukuqhosha komsunguli okujule kangaka, umkhankaso onomona owenzelwe ukuba kube ngcono kakhulu − kangangokuthi ukuhlenga okuphephile nokungcono kakhulu kungokokhululana esibophoni. Ukuhlukana okuhloniphekile kuhlonipha okuhle okwake kwaba khona lapho kuvuma ukuthi isimo samanje sinobuthi. Amalungu angadabuka ukulahlekelwa, afunde izifundo, futhi athwale izifundo ezimweni ezinjalo. Ukukhululwa ezimweni ezinjalo kuba okungokomuntu siqu: ilungu ngalinye elikade lizama ukususa ukuqhosha kwalo, ukubekezelela ukuhaha.

Umkhuba Wobuhle Oqhubekayo

Amakhambi ezono eziyisikhombisa ezibulalayo aye afundiswa izazi zefilosofi nabezokwelapha ngokufanayo nezinhlangothi ezifanayo. Ukuthobeka kuyakuhlola ukuqhosha. Ukupha kubulala ukuhaha. Ukuzitika nokuzilawula. Umusa nokugubha kunqoba umona. Uzwela nokuziqhayisa. Ukuminyana nokubekezela kuthoba ulaka. Ukubekezela nenhliziyo ephelele. Ubuzalwane obungathi sína ngokuhlala isikhathi eside abunakuthembela ekulawuleni izinhlekelele. Kumelwe bakhe isiko elisebenzisa ngenkuthalo lemiyalo ngemikhuba yansuku zonke: ukuvuma kwasobala kweminikelo yabanye, ukunikezwa kwemivuzo yomivuzo nemithwalo, imikhosi yokuxhumana okubonisa ukukhulumisana, nesibopho sokubhekana nezimbewu ezincane zesono ngaphambi kokuba bakhulele ekukhapheleni.

Izono eziyisikhombisa ezibulalayo azilona uhlu olusha, kodwa uma zisetshenziswa ngokwethembeka, zingasindisa iqembu, inkampani, iqembu labangane, noma umkhaya ongokoqobo ekubhujisweni. Ubuzalwane obuvivinywa ukuqhosha, ukuhaha, inkanuko, ukuminza, ulaka, intukuthelo, intukuthelo, kodwa abazalwane abafunda ukubona lamandla, bamelane nokukhashelwa, futhi bahambe endleleni ende yokuhlenga abavele bavele baphele nje kodwa baguquke, ngokuzivuselela emlilweni owake wasongela ukuwaqeda.