Imishini yenkumbulo eguquguqukayo `ehlaziywe'

Izindaba eziphathelene nesikhathi zokuhamba azivamile ukuphatha inkumbulo njengesixhobo sokuhlela − ukuqopha izenzakalo okufanele ashintshwe umbhejekisi. [eyaziwa futhi ngokuthi i-Bokuko dake Aga Machi] [[FLT]]) iyakulahla lokho okulindelwe ngokuphelele. Kulendaba, inkumbulo ayiyona ingobo yomlando owethule; iyinjini yendaba yonke, indawo abalingiswa kuyo bonke, balahleke, futhi ekugcineni balahlekelwe. Ukuzisola nokuhlenga akunazihloko ezikhunjululwayo phezu kohlelo. Zizinto ezibunjwa yizinkumbulo, zikhohlwe futhi zichaze kabusha. Inkumbulo ayisebenzi nje, kodwa incazelo eyenzekayo. [FFFF:]

Ukuqonda ukuthi kungani indima yenkumbulo izwakala kakhulu, kusiza ukubheka isisekelo sengqondo esisamukeleka ngokuphelele. Inkumbulo iyinqubo evuselelayo, hhayi inqubo eqondene nenkathi. Inkumbulo iyisenzo sokuzilibazisa, esisengozini yokusontwa, ibala elingokomzwelo, ngisho nokucindezelwa ngamabomu. Lenqubo efanayo ivumela i-probiton Satoru Fujiuma ukuba ibuyele engqondweni yakhe yobuntwana phakathi “kokuvukela”, kodwa isathwala ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo nolwazi oluqotho lobuntu bakhe obukhulu. Lokhu kungazi okungaqondakali ngokomzwelo.

Ukuhlola okunenkumbulo ebuhlungu ekhishwa yi-American Psychological Association kugcizelela ngokunembile lokhu kucindezeleka: [[FLT: 0]] Inkumbulo yokubulawa kwabantu yizilonda ezihlukene kakhulu, exhunyiwe njengezinto ezithatha isithombe esifingqiwe nezingokomzwelo kunokulandisa okuhambisanayo.” ISator izibonakaliso zalokhu kuxebuka. Izinkumbulo zakhe zakuqala zokubulawa kwabantu zihlukaniswa izithombe − nea redlic, umoya obandayo weqhwa kusihlwa, umuzwa wokungabi nalusizo. Lendaba ayiyona ikhathazeli ngaphandle komzamo ukuchaza inkathi edlule; icishe ihlanganise lezozingxenyana zendaba ezingasehlela, zidabukisa, futhi ekugcineni ziphulukiswe.

Ingqondo Ephazamisekile Ebuntwaneni

Ukuphila kukaSatu Fujinuma umuntu omdala kuwumfanekiso wentuthuko eboshiwe, futhi umsuka waleyo stasis usenkumbulweni ephelele. Uyingcweti yemanga ehlulekile, engazi kahle ngokomzwelo, esebenza umsebenzi owesiphelo sokubeletha, futhi ekhathazwa umuzwa ocacile kodwa ophikelelayo wokukhubazeka. Akazi ukuthi ukufa kukanina kanye nokelele wokubulala kusukela ebuntwaneni bakhe kuhlangene ngokuqondile nezinkumbulo zakhe ezingavumelaniyo. Lokho aziyo ukuthi kuwukungabi namvuzo okungapheli abacwaningi abakubiza ngokuthi ukuhlangana kwemizwa kwemizwa [[FLT:]. Okudlulele akukadluli; kuyaqhubeka ukulimala ngoba akukaze kuqondwe ngokuphelele.

“ Isifo seRepal” esivele ngokuzenzakalelayo sinqanda inhlekelele ephoqelela iSaru ukuba ivimbele inhlekelele esikhathini esingeside. Isebenza njengendlela yokuzivikela yangaphandle. Ilingisa lokho ochwepheshe bezehlakalo abakubiza ngokuthi izimpawu zokuphazamisa, kodwa ngokushintsha okunzima: esikhundleni senhlansi ekhubazayo ekhubazayo, iSatoru isuke ithathe ukungenela okusebenzayo. Akamane nje athathe isenzakalo esibuhlungu; uphoqelelwa ukuba abe yisikhulu. Lokhu kuguqula inkumbulo isuka emthoba ye-octrality ibe yindawo ye-injini, kodwa umthwalo uhlala ukhona. Ukubuya komquququze, ukudideka, nokuphatha ulwazi olunzima angenakusindisa wonke umuntu.

Ngalendlela, esusiwe ibonisa iqiniso elijulile ngokuzisola. Akukona ukudabuka ngenxa yomphumela omubi; yinkolelo ephikelelayo yokuthi umuntu okhona manje ubengenza ukukhetha okuhlukile[[. Isembozo sonke se-Saru sixhomeke ekususeni inkolelo ngokubonisa ukuthi umntwana wake wantula imithombo, ulwazi, nokusekela ukuze enze okuhlukile. Ngokufaka kuphela ukuhlakanipha komntwana okungokomzwelo angaqala ukuzithethelela ngokwakhe inqubo yezincwadi ezithinta ingqondo ngokuzikhuthaza ukuze athole inxephe.

I - Nostalia Njengenkungu Evikelayo

Uma ukuzisola kuyisiphetho esibukhali senkumbulo, ukulangazelela kungumgubo ohehayo. kunikeza ukunakekela okungcono kakhulu lé lé lécttis secometic secometic’s: ukukhanya okunganqamukiyo kwedolobha lase Hokkaido elineqhwa, ukufudumala kwekilasi ngoFebruary, inqubo eduduzayo yokudla komkhaya. Le mizuzu ingcono, futhi ifeza injongo ebanzi ngaphandle nje komoya ozungezene. Loluchungechunge lubonisa ukuthi i-fluend ingaba indlu ephephile [[[FLT:]], indawo yokubalekela lapho ukudla okukhona kuba okungabekelekiyo.

Ukucwaninga ngethemba lokukhumbula izinto kubonise isimo salo esiphindwe kabili. Umsebenzi ofushaniswe i-Psychology Today[ uphawula ukuthi nakuba ukukhumbula inkanuko kungathuthukisa imizwa yokuxhumana nokubaluleka komphakathi, kungaholela ekuzithatheleni ngokweqile nasekuzitheni izinto ezenzeka esikhathini esidlule. Esandleni sikaSaru, ukubuyela ku-1995 ngokuqondisisa ngokuqondisisa ngalokhu kuhlangana komphakathi. Ubheka izingane afunda nazo zingabheki ukucutha ngendlela eyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa njengezisulu okumelwe zisindise ukulandisa kwakhe siqu. Kulapho evumela khona kuphela lapho ethatha amahale athandanayo engobunhlaza angazibona ngempela ehlupheka ngenxa yendlela ehlupheka ngayo: i-kayikhokha engazi ukuthi i-okina enzile ewusebenzisa kabi i-okina.

UKayo ngokwakhe uba yindawo yokulandisa ehambisana nenkumbulo ethinta imizwelo. Umzimba wakhe uphethe ubufakazi obungokoqobo bokuthi ukukhumbula kumane kufihleke ngaphansi kwemikhono emide, ukungondleki okwenza ukuba abe mncane kunontanga. Uma izinkumbulo zikaSator ekugcineni zidlula enkungwini yokukhumbula futhi zibhale leyomininingwane, umsebenzi wakhe usuka ekuvimbeleni ubugebengu obumacrocle kuya ekusindisweni kwesilinganiso esincane kakhulu somuntu oyedwa, umuntu ongokoqobo.

Isiqinisekiso Sokuthi Akukaze Kufike

Isihloko sigcwele isisindo esingokomfanekiso, futhi isingathekiso selabha esibonakalayo sivela ngokuphindaphindiwe ezikweletini ezivulweni ezilandelayo nasezigcawini eziyinhloko. Ngaphandle kwayo, i-rab isikisela isikwele esihlanzekile, iphupho lokususa ibala ngokuphelele kangangokuba lingasali. Le phupho liyiphutha, indida---* inye ehlelayo. Uma abalingi bezama ukuqeda izinkumbulo ezibuhlungu, abaphumeleli ukuthula; kunalokho badala [[FLT:] amaphaphu ekwazini kwabo [[FLT] ].

Akukho lapho lokhu kusobala khona kakhulu kunasengqondweni yombambeli kodwa uhlobo olungavamile lokwenza inkumbulo, amandla ashukumisayo angemva kosongo oluyinhloko awubuhlobo obusontekile nenkumbulo kanye nokwazi, obusekelwe emzamweni wakuqala wokususa umuzwa wokungabi nalutho okukhulu. Izenzo zomthakathi akuzona ezobudlova kodwa uhlobo olusabekayo lokuqopha inkumbulo, umzamo wokugcwalisa lokho okucishiwe. Kulokhu, lesi ndaba senza kube nempikiswano ehlasimulisayo: isenzo sokuzama ukuqeda inkumbulo asisibhubhisi siyenzele ibe yinto esabekayo efuna inkulumo noma ikuphi nakuphi.

Kubantu abanobu protagono, isifundo sinamandla ngokufanayo. Inkathi kaSaru yokuqubuka ngemva kokuxabana kwakhe kokugcina imelela uhlobo oluthile lwezivumo eziphoqelelwe, indawo engenalutho lapho ingemikhomba khona esikhathini esidlule nekusasa. Noma kunjalo, inkumbulo iyaqhubeka emiizimbeni nasezingqondweni zalabo abamthandayo. Unina wakhe akaze antengantenge; abangane bakhe bavakashela; uKayo wakha ukuphila okunethonya lakhe elinamandla. Ukuzivuselela kwenkumbulo ebusweni benkathi engokoqobo kungumbono wokugcina, wokunqoba: akukho lutho olunyamala uma beluboniwe futhi luphethwe omunye .

Ukubhekana Njengomgwaqo Wokuhlengwa

Nakuba izisola, ukuphikisana kuhlanganisa. Amaphuzu okushintsha ku [[FLT]] cishe awawahlulwanga muntu; ayizenzakalo ezihlobene lapho inkumbulo yohlobo oluthile iqiniswa ngomunye. Uma unina kaSaru, uSachiko, embula ukuthi ukhumbula kahle izenzakalo ezihlobene nokuxhashazwa kukaKayo, wenza okungaphezu kokunikeza umbukiso. Unikeza uSatoru inzuzo ejulile yenkumbulo eyodwa, ulwazi lokuthi akayena kuphela umgcini weqiniso.

Le sibonisi esinamandla esibizwa ngokuthi [abelaphi abasizakalayo abasebenza ngokufakelwa yi- ukwakhiwa kwendaba ehambisanayo . Inkumbulo yomuntu, ikakhulukazi uma engcoliswe yi-blame, ayithembekile. Kodwa uma omunye umzali othembekile, umngane, ngisho nochwepheshe ozinikezele , [1] , uveza iqiniso lomlando owedluleyo nowuwenza uphinde uwenze, inkumbulo ilahlekelwa amandla ayo okuguqula isimo. Isihloko sithola ukuthi “Ukwakhiwa kwePhakathi lomuntu siqu ne-Impi yalo kuveza ukuvumelana kwendaba yethu, sigcizelela ukuthi ukuphila kwethu kudinga ukuhlangana. [[[FLTLT]]

[[FLT: 0] Iqokonyiswa ikwenza kube mhle lokhu ezigcawini zasekilasini. Imizamo kaSatu ephikelelayo yokuhlanganisa uKayo nendwangu yesigaba sabo yomphakathi ayizona nje izenzo zomusa; ziyizenzo zokukhumbula [[ . Ngokudala izenzakalo ezahlukene, ezakhayo, imikhosi yezihlahla, imikhosi yezinsuku zokuzalwa kweqembu, imikhosi yezinsuku zokuzalwa kweqembu, `inikeza uKayo''' amaphuzu amashasha okuchaza izinto okungahambi kahle kancane kancane kancane. Inkumbulo yakhe ayicimeki; ihlala ikhona, kodwa ayinwe. Ubumnyama bulokhu bukhona, kodwa abusadlangasadlali yonke insimu yakhe.

Umsebenzi Wokudala Izinkumbulo Ezintsha Ukuphila Kwakho Konke

Ukukhululwa akuvamile ukuba kube yisenzakalo esisodwa, esiphawulekayo. Iminyaka yokugcina ye icacisa lokhu ngokubonisa ukululama kwe-Satoru ngemva kokuquleka kwakhe. Izemba elingokomzimba enkumbulo yakhe (iminyaka eminingi yokuphila kwakhe esebunzimeni obungaqiniseki − iveza izinhlungu ezingokomzwelo zobuntwana. Akumelwe aphinde aphinde abuye athole imisebenzi yakhe kodwa futhi aphinde aphinde avule imoto yakhe ngemva kokuvuka ebhuloza umfana ayenguye, umuntu omdala owayehamba isikhathi eside, futhi manje indoda ebhekene nekusasa elingaqinisekile.

Lokhu kwakhiwa kabusha akuwona umsebenzi owenziwe ngedwa. Izibopho azenza esikhathini esidlule ziguqula isikhathi hhayi ngesu elithile elingokwendawo yonke kodwa ngokuziqopha kancane, ngokuzibekela isikhathi esisha, esihlangeneyo. Ukusinda kukaKayo kuholela kuye ukuba akhe umkhaya wakhe siqu. Abangane bakhe bakhula bethwele izindinganiso zokwethembeka nesibindi esiqinisekisiwe. Ngisho no-Airi, ubuntu obusuka ekuqaleni, uba ukubaluleka kokuphila kwesikhathi esizayo. Ngabunye balezi zikhathi zobuhlobo buba ibhange lenkumbulo ekhona. [[FLT:], iso sihlanganisa iziteshini ezihlalayo ezigcina ulwazi lwakhe luhlangene lapho ingqondo yakhe ingenakukwazi ukuzenzela.

Kubantu abalalele, lokhu kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuthatha isinyathelo. Amandla [ase- awekho esigwegweni sawo esingaphezu komandla emvelo kodwa ekugcizeleleni ukuthi isikhathi esidlule singaguqulwa ngalokho esikwenzayo manje. Isenzo ngasinye esinengqondo, umzuzu ngamunye wokuxhumana kwangempela, izimbewu inkumbulo ezingavunwa kamuva uma ithemba lincipha. Ithemba lalokhu kulandela lisekelwe ekufezekeni kwansuku zonke kwenkumbulo: asinakususa izahluko ezibuhlungu, kodwa singabhala eziningi kakhulu ukuthi indaba ichazwa ngokuthi ingenye nje inhlekelele.

Inkumbulo Njengesixhumanisi Esiyinhloko Se - Empathy

Mhlawumbe impikiswano ethulayo kodwa enzima kakhulu uchungechunge oluyenza ukuthi ulwazi olugcwele lwenkumbulo yomunye lususa ithuba lokungalawuleki . Isikhathi sikaSaru sidlulisa isikhathi simnika ithuba lokungagcini nje ekuboneni kwakhe siqu esikhathini esidlule kodwa, ngokubona nangokubona okuhlangenwe nakho, kusuka kubantu abaseduze naye. Ufunda uKayo ngokwakhe ukuthuthumela. Ubona isizungu esibangela isigaba sengxubevavange. Ubona ukuphelelwa yithemba komfundisi ozwa ukuthi injongo yokuphila kwakhe isuka kude.

Lokhu kubuka inkumbulo kuyamshintsha ngoba kususa amalebula angcono abangela ukunganaki. Awunakumxosha umuntu uma wonke umlando wabo ubhalwe enhliziyweni yakho. Lolu chungechunge lusikisela ukuthi uma sonke singakhumbula ngempela izenzakalo kodwa indlela engokomzwelo yokuphila kwabanye, unya lungaba yize kakhulu. I-Empathy, kulolu hlobo, iyindima yenkumbulo: ikhono lokuthwala ngaphakathi kithina ingxenye ethile yalokho okumelwe ibe yikho omunye umuntu.

Ngesikhathi lapho izingxoxo zamasiko zigxile kakhulu enkumbulo ehlangene nasekubalweni komlando, isebenza njengendlela yokuzimela efinyelelweyo, ebanzi ngokomzwelo. Isigijimi sayo asilulanga noma i-scapist. Iyavuma ukuthi inkumbulo ingaba ijele. Ivumela ukuba ukukhumbula kungaba indlela yokubalekela engahambi ndawo. Kodwa igcizelela ngamandla agcwele omklamo wayo, ukuthi yona kanye imishini esifaka esimweni esibucayi. Imvuzo ayisona isango elinzima, kodwa lapho ihlolwa, kodwa lapho ihlanganiswa, futhi ekugcineni ihlanganiswa.

Ekugcineni, exazululiwe asifuni ukuba sikhohlwe. Icela ukuba sikhumbule kakhulu, hhayi okuncane: ukukhumbula ubuso bezingane esahluleka, izikhathi esazibheka kude, amathuba amancane esawaphuthela. Kuphela ngokuba naleyo mifanekiso egcwele ezingqondweni zethu singahamba endleleni lapho siphenduka khona sibe nothando olunesizotha, lwamabomu olwakha ukubaluleka kwesikhathi esizayo ezakhamuzini.